What you find out in life is that it is very humbling and that you never stop learning. You grow from your mistakes and that no matter your age you continue to make them unfortunately. I am not sure who reads this blog and although it pertains to networking there sometimes aren't ways to seperate it from life in general because it is all intertwined.
Always remember when dealing with emotional situations to step back, catch your breathe and wait a day before sending out any communication. In this day and age of social media it is far too easy to send out immediate communication about a topic before you have had time to find out all of the facts or before you have time to collect your thoughts. What you put out in Twitter, Facebook, etc. is seen by many who don't know or understand the context of the issue. All people are getting is one side of the story and your responses may not truly be indicative of the message you are trying to convey.
Make sure you thank the individuals in your life who give you enough leeway to make mistakes and learn from them. It is far more beneficial when making a mistake to be punished and given another opportunity then to be jettisoned to the curb and never given another opportunity.
Communication is critical to success and you will need to be able to express yourself effectively to everyone you encounter at all levels. Most items that become issues are a result of poor communication and people intepreting things the wrong way. Remember that the best way to gain the truth is directly from the individual and not someone else's interpretation of partial facts.
It is easy to let the wrong items take priority in your life so make sure you periodically review your personal and professional priorities to make sure you are on track and focusing on the right things. Make sure that your priorities match up with your values because that is an easy way to keep things in line.
Identify individuals to emulate because we hopefully all are a combination of traits we have acuired from many wonderful people over the years.
Be humble. No one goes through life without any set backs and being cognizant of that is important to your overall growth as a person.
Wednesday, January 18, 2012
Thursday, January 12, 2012
THE HARSH REALITY OF LIFE
The harsh reality of life is that you live in a fishbowl and all of your faults will be known by everyone so develop a tough skin. This is not meant to be a downer post but just a reality check for the naive individauls of the world who need a wake-up call. I have personally been blessed with thousands of wonderful connections who I have enjoyed interacting with throughout my life.
The reality though is that I have very few "really" good friends and they know who they are because I express that to them on a regular basis. What people need to understand is that most people, even the one's you think are your friends will stab you in the back and run the other way when times get tough.
Unfortunately we live in a world where, when the truth is told people look out for themselves and when push comes to shove frienship is thrown out the window. If there is a choice of cutting a friend, collegue, teammate at the expense of self preservation or accolades it will be as easy as 1, 2, 3 for that person. We unfortunately still do not live in a world where everyone is treated equal. Those that complain the most, yell the loudest and sit in the expensive seats win most of the battles. There are many wonderful individuals in this world who do give of their time, talent and resources freely and thank god for them. We need more people like them to balance out the very competitive and selfish world we live in today. Please acknowledge and thank those individuals when you see them because what they do is so incredibly important to the soul of the world we live in.
The reality of our world is that we live in a "you scratch my back, I will scratch your back society". Way too many people do something expecting something in return and that is unfortunate. There is no greater sense of fulfillment than to do something strictly out of kindness with no expectation of even a "thank you".
A network can involve 1,000's of individuals and how this all relates to my blog on networking is this:
Manage your personal brand and tell the story about yourself that you want to be told.
Don't allow others to tell the "story of you" except YOU because it most likely will not be postive.
Pick key members of your network carefully because many will not be as complimentary as you think. I have made many reference calls that I am sure the individual thought would say great things and they were full of negative remarks.
Keep your valued thoughts to your closest confidants. Assume that most of what you tell someone will be shared with someone else and probably exaggerated as well.
Every company, school, community has individuals who will gain your confidence to gather information.
Remember YOU are the CEO of You, Inc.and you communicate your own image. Don't let others communicate it for you.
There is a "tell it all PERSON" in every town or company so beware!
Loyalty is an overused word and those that you believe are friends will forgo friendship to get ahead of their closest friend.
Never share anything personal in an email or in a phone message because it will forwarded or shared 90% of the time.
Big town - Small Town, Large business - small business, Facebook-Twitter. Your network community is all of these places and more so be ever mindful.
BUT ABOVE ALL ELSE REMEMBER
There are good people in the world and hopefully many of them are on your "Key Network" list. Don't let the competitiveness of our world and the cut throat actions get you down, Good over Evil! Those that you value most will provide you the greatest rewards !
A NETWORK IS A VALUABLE TOOL WHEN USED IN THE RIGHT CONTEXT !
The reality though is that I have very few "really" good friends and they know who they are because I express that to them on a regular basis. What people need to understand is that most people, even the one's you think are your friends will stab you in the back and run the other way when times get tough.
Unfortunately we live in a world where, when the truth is told people look out for themselves and when push comes to shove frienship is thrown out the window. If there is a choice of cutting a friend, collegue, teammate at the expense of self preservation or accolades it will be as easy as 1, 2, 3 for that person. We unfortunately still do not live in a world where everyone is treated equal. Those that complain the most, yell the loudest and sit in the expensive seats win most of the battles. There are many wonderful individuals in this world who do give of their time, talent and resources freely and thank god for them. We need more people like them to balance out the very competitive and selfish world we live in today. Please acknowledge and thank those individuals when you see them because what they do is so incredibly important to the soul of the world we live in.
The reality of our world is that we live in a "you scratch my back, I will scratch your back society". Way too many people do something expecting something in return and that is unfortunate. There is no greater sense of fulfillment than to do something strictly out of kindness with no expectation of even a "thank you".
A network can involve 1,000's of individuals and how this all relates to my blog on networking is this:
Manage your personal brand and tell the story about yourself that you want to be told.
Don't allow others to tell the "story of you" except YOU because it most likely will not be postive.
Pick key members of your network carefully because many will not be as complimentary as you think. I have made many reference calls that I am sure the individual thought would say great things and they were full of negative remarks.
Keep your valued thoughts to your closest confidants. Assume that most of what you tell someone will be shared with someone else and probably exaggerated as well.
Every company, school, community has individuals who will gain your confidence to gather information.
Remember YOU are the CEO of You, Inc.and you communicate your own image. Don't let others communicate it for you.
There is a "tell it all PERSON" in every town or company so beware!
Loyalty is an overused word and those that you believe are friends will forgo friendship to get ahead of their closest friend.
Never share anything personal in an email or in a phone message because it will forwarded or shared 90% of the time.
Big town - Small Town, Large business - small business, Facebook-Twitter. Your network community is all of these places and more so be ever mindful.
BUT ABOVE ALL ELSE REMEMBER
There are good people in the world and hopefully many of them are on your "Key Network" list. Don't let the competitiveness of our world and the cut throat actions get you down, Good over Evil! Those that you value most will provide you the greatest rewards !
A NETWORK IS A VALUABLE TOOL WHEN USED IN THE RIGHT CONTEXT !
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